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*Relationships*
A guide to coping with the trials and tribulations of long distance relationships
**When Love Isn't Enough: The Roots of Couple Conflict
Have you worked your butt off to communicate better only to find that the issues never go away? If so, read on.
**When The Honeymoon Is Over
What to do when you realize Mr. or Mrs. Wonderful is human and has annoying habits.
The Best Revenge
How to get out of a romantic relationship with your dignity intact
Healing Old Wounds
All we are saying, is give peace a chance. Wait, that's a Lennon song. Really, this article is about how to stop the wars that happen within ourselves and between ourselves and others.
Don't Go Breakin' My Heart
Love and war and heartbreak songs.... grab your chocolate and your box of tissues.
Looking for Mr./Ms. Right
An exploration of how cultural expectations about love doom our romantic relationships.
Sticks and Stones
Have you ever really stopped to test the saying, 'Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me'? Regina explores the hurtful
power of words and makes suggestions as to how to subvert verbal attacks.
Stress, Stoves and Vacuum Cleaners
Feeling stressed out of your mind? Think there has to be something more than meditation, murder or sedatives to relieve some of this stress? Read on!
Ten Things You Can Do To Screw Up a Romantic Relationship
Have you ever felt like you're relationship was just going too well and wondered how you could throw a monkey wrench into the works. The column tells you how to get out of the wonder groove.
Why Can't We Get Love Right?
A look at the impact of subtle and not so subtle signs of abuse on our ability to maintain deeply satisfying romantic relationships
Why Can't We Get Love Right? Part 2
A look at how issues from the past get screw up our ability to maintain deeply satisfying romantic relationships
*Existential and Spiritual Explorations*
**Deep in the Heart of Texas
Fractured family relationships, Ram Dass and the art of healing
**Finding Stillness
An alternative to spending your life in perpetual motion in order to avoid your pain and fear
**Sex, Ego and Better Living through Louis Vuitton
Sex in the City meets Eckhart Tolle and winds up happily ever after
**Sporks in the Road
A hitchhikers guide to the road less traveled
Meditations on suffering and trust
Sunsets: A Woman's Search for Meaning
Do you feel frustrated because are so busy trying to acheive your goals? Have you ever asked the question, "What's the meaning of life?" or "What's
the point?"
Struck by Lightning
An existential reflection on life in the modern world.
Wrinkles in Time
This article is an exploration of risk and empowerment.
*General Self-Help*
**Promise Song
An article of hope for those of us who came into adulthood with lots of emotional scares because it wasn't OK to be gay, lesbian, bi or trans.
**Living Life With Passion
A guide to figuring out out how to follow your bliss.
**Hole in the Bucket
A prescription for dealing with economic woes.
**Coming Home: Hour Your Body Is Related to Your Emotional Pain
An explanation of the link between the body and the emotional system and ways to use the body to heal broken hearts and other emotional issues.
Life Sculpture
If your life was a work of art, would you want to frame it and put in on a museum wall or throw it in the rubbish bin? This article helps you explore your life in terms of how you are living relative to how you'd like to live.
Surviving the Holidays
Despite what the TV specials and Hallmark cards tell us, getting through the holiday season can feel like walking through a mine field, especially for those of us who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered. This article offers a map to help you get through the season without getting blown to bits.
How Long Will it Take
The grieving process sucks. Most of us, when faced with the pain of grieving opt for short cuts and do everything we can think of to avoid the pain of grief. This approach rarely works in the long run. This article suggests a way to heal through your grief.
The Price of Punishment
Many of us think that in order to be worthy of love we have to be perfect. When we fall short of this standard, we emotionally beat ourselves up. This article explores this pattern and suggests a different strategy to being or best, most perfect, selves.
Baggage
A guided meditation to help you explore and release some of the emotional baggage that keeps you stuck.
Holiday Blues
Notes on how to handle the holidays if you are struggling with grief.
Learning to Swim
Cliffnotes for how to deal with fear and anxiety that go beyond feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
New Year's Resolution
Do you find yourself earnestly making New Year's Resolutions only to break them by the time summer comes around? Read on to see what's getting in the way of making true changes.
The Best Advice
A look at the healing power of empathy and compassion.
Vengeance is Mine
How to respond when you feel you've been wronged that won't result in jail or humiliation.
*Environment*
Letter From Mother
If mother earth could talk to us about the impact of war, this might be what she'd say!
*Physical and sexual abuse*
Changing Tapes
A tool box for unhooking ourselves from the emotional triggers that send us into a spin.
Letter To Joan
This article explores the healing power of the words, "I believe."
Broken Windows
This is a blow by blow account of my reaction to the broken window that almost shattered my dreams.
Healing From Tragedies Past and Present
Explore the connections between past trauma that you've experienced and your reaction to the tragic events on "Black Tuesday" and find out how healing from the past can help you heal in the present.
Stranger Danger and the "Stranger" in Your House
If you hate child molesters, if you worry about children being sexually molested, or if you yourself were molested or raped as a child, read this
article.
*Essays about My Grandmothers*
A Drawer Full of Memories
Late night musings on on my grandmother and the power of photographs.
A Gift Of Grace
A snapshot of an extraordiary ordianary woman that is both humorous and poignant.
*Gender Issues*
**Love, Lust and the Pursuit of Sex
An exploration of gender roles, sex and sexual satisfaction.
Glamour Girls, Pretty Boys and the Quest for the Perfect Body
A look at our national obsession with body image as it affects men and women.
Nobody Wants To Talk About It. Period.
Have you ever wondered what the world would be like if men menstruated?
Panties
Ever wonder about the connection between panties and the arena of human relations? Sit back and take a peek!
Parts and Pieces: Reconstructing Gender
The implications of transgendered issues for our understanding of gender.
The Marlboro Man and Other Myths
Are you tired of living in a culture that celebrates the denigration of women? Are you sick of male violence against women? This article describes
what women can do to transform this culture.
Training Bras
Training bras symbolize the transformation from childhood to womanhood. This article explores the experience and consequences of that process.
*Social Justice Issues*
Diffusing the Power of Words
Self-defense from the inside out. How to take the sting out of hurtful and hateful words.
That's So Gay!
This article looks at the impact a "silly" expression has on both the culture and on real lives.
*Travel*
**Cape May: The GLBT Destinations on the Jersey Shore
A travel guide to Gay Cape May - a great Beach destination on the Jersey Shore.
**P-Town in the Off Season
Provincetown after the crowds have gone.
**San Antonio: Some Like it Hot
Beyond the River Walk, the Alamo and the old Lone Star Brewery, in the buckle of the bible belt, there's queer life after all.
Something to BRAG About: Roadtrip 2004
A journal about a recent experience on Bike Ride Across Georgia (BRAG), just for fun.